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This past Wednesday I had an opportunity to interview Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. She developed the term because she has done years of research and coined the term Hijackals for people who are relentlessly difficult people that behave this way with you but not with anyone else. She says, “All Hijackals drink from the same pool of traits. They are people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then relentlessly scavenge them for power, status and control. It has nothing to do with you, it’s about the money and control.”
HOW DO HIJACKALS CHOOSE YOU AS THEIR TARGET?
Hijackals choose you because you are nurturing, codependent or delighted to have a new wonderful person in their lives. They frequently con, undermine and ruin your life by running over your boundaries, taking control of your money and ruin your reputation by talking to family and friends behind your back. Then, suddenly everyone is against you and you can’t figure out what happened.
Hijackals are experts at reading your emotions and actions and do everything wonderful for you. You are attracted to them because they are charming. Dr. Shaler calls them camillions who “Show you your favorite color until they show you their true colors.”
HIJACKAL TRAITS
- They take control of your money and remove you from the finances.
- They have to win and they will not give up until they do win.
- It doesn’t matter if it’s a business partner or a spouse. They must win in every situation and you will never win because they’ll always lead others to believe that you are wrong or don’t know what you are talking abour.
- They may woo your family and then say, “I think there may be something wrong with her or we need to be delicate with her.” and you wonder, “What did I do wrong? Why has he been able to seduce my family away from me?” They abscond and destroy the good name you used to have.
- Hijackals don’t show others who they are. Only you see their real behavior and when you try to describe it others don’t believe you.
- When you want to leave they “hoover” you right back into the relationship by bringing flowers, gifts or promise something you’ve always wanted to do with them. If you give in the relationship becomes even worse.
- They are sure they are perfect the way they are and have no need to make changes.
- Hijackal traits will always return or remain as an undercurrent even if they’ve taken the time to work on themselves to disguise who they are.
- They are able to cry on demand to convince you that they should have their own way.
- Hijackals don’t have love to give you they only have usages for you.
- They may be either sex and are often a parent that set you up as Hijackal bait.
YOU’VE DISCOVERED YOU ARE WITH A HIJACKAL, NOW WHAT?
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler provides information on your next steps if you have identified that you are under the control of a Hijackal. Discover what to do, how to get out, or learn how to work with the relationship if you can find a way to hang in there. Contact Dr. Shaler if you need support. She will guide you in preparing to take back your life. Start putting some of your grocery money away, grow a backbone, or step up and say, “I’ll take my half.” Take the time to figure it out and work with yourself. Get clear, set boundaries, and start taking control of your life.
You may feel that you are in the wrong because you are hooked on hope that this person will again be who you fell in love with.
GET HELP FROM DR. RHOBERTA SHALER
If you think you are with a Hijackal get Dr. Shaler’s free ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal at Hijackals.com. If you want more information go to her website at ForRelationshipHelp.com.