BLOGGING BUSINESS WITH SHIRLENE
“You are not your mind. Whatever it says, don’t fight with it. Don’t try to change it. Just decide that no matter what it says, you are not getting involved.
Thoughts and feelings are not you.”
Michael A. Singer
EPISODE 2 Recap
Last week I provided you with a list that asked, “Is This You?” How many boxes did you check? What did you learn about yourself? What did you think about the story of the mom who’s son continues mirroring his battle of hate and anger in his own mind? This week we’ll discuss your mirroring and what it means when others aggravate and annoy you.
Seeing Into Your Mirroring Challenges
In his interview with me on WMAX.TV, bestselling author and human behavior expert Dr. John Demartini said, “Every relationship is really part of the perfection. It’s giving you feedback to let you know what you haven’t loved in yourself and yet you’re projecting it onto other people.”
Think about what challenges and relationship problems may be going on around you. This morning, I woke to my neighbors screaming at each other—I have no idea about what. I do know, however, that one of my neighbor ladies creates conflict with everyone and blames the other person. She can’t see that the one major factor in every conflict is that she is smack-dab in the middle of it.
Feeling like You’re being attacked
At times when I’ve chatted with her about these outbursts, she expresses to me that in these situations, she feels like she’s being attacked. She then becomes angry, stirring up a storm of hateful comments and criticism about whomever she perceives to be wrong. In every situation, regardless of whether the other person was right or wrong, she is simply mirroring the problem because it’s her thinking that causes her pain.
Reflecting Back on Your Last Challenge
We all experience this type of challenge, but it’s how we choose to think and talk about it that makes all the difference. Reflect back on your most recent difficulty. Be really honest with yourself. If you were a witness standing idly by, what would it look like? Can you see yourself as part of the problem? If you have the time write down how this challenge occurred, what you think went wrong, and how you participated in the escalation.
Who Consistently Irritates You?
How can you expect to turn around a miserable situation if you aren’t honest with both yourself and the other person involved? Denying how bad a situation is only digs you into a deeper hole.
Those closest to you are mirrors of what you will most likely see inside yourself if you aren’t afraid to take the time to reflect. When someone consistently irritates and aggravates you, it’s because you have that same behavior within you. Close your eyes for a minute and think of someone who irritates you. What irritates you most about this person? Now take the next step and look within yourself. Are you exhibiting those same behaviors unconsciously? If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be irritated. In fact, you wouldn’t see it at all. It’s just that simple.
“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life
is the result of your own making.”
See Your Part In the Pain
Seeing the errors within allows you to forgive your mirroring messages while providing more clarity and understanding around the others involved. The action of forgiving yourself provides an opportunity to see your part in the pain and creates the space to move forward with confidence, knowing you won’t have to learn that lesson again. That doesn’t mean you won’t be tested again with a similar challenge. Believe me; you will be tested again and again and again just to see whether you got it right. But you can make it stop!
WHAT’S UP NEXT WEEK?
Episode 4: We’ll be discussing the error of our biggest mistakes and how they relate to positive growth and personal development. Have you noticed how the same problems show up over and over again? There’s a reason why they repeat themselves and there’s a way to stop the craziness. Are you ready to let go and free yourself of negativity? You can do it right now. Schedule an appointment with the doctor now and get it over with.
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